Under appreciated skilled SAHMs and lack of remote jobs
I am a SAHM, with zero regrets. Stop making me feel under appreciated and less valued. I don’t always need flowers to tell me what I am worth. Sometimes an acknowledgement in the real world can do wonders. Can someone tell me why are there such few remote jobs for SAHMs and/ or few companies who even accept SAHMs for remote jobs?
I received a connection request on LinkedIn couple of days back. The gentleman is a recruiter who wrote to me that he ‘liked’ my profile and wanted to know if I am looking for a change. I wrote back saying I am a SAHM (read: Stay At Home Mom) now and would be interested in any remote job positions.
That’s my current availability with a clause. I don’t want to put it out there but I have to. I chose the SAHM life and I cannot thank my husband enough to have supported me the way he does. We both think that it is what we need for our baby.
But somehow in this modern era where women are known to be doing it all so well and men who say they empathize, not many companies are still open to the idea of working remotely. They think this combined with a SAHM role can result into a disaster. Because that’s how little they think of SAHMs.
I choose to be an SAHM despite having two masters degrees and a ton of work experience. I did not choose to be an SAHM because I had no other way. I am skilled, I am professional, I could be an asset to the company, but everything aside, I am identified by this big bold hashtag Stay At Home Mom.
This gentleman read my response (thank you read receipt), made several posts after that but did not have the courtesy of replying even if it meant no. It is so demeaning, so disrespectful and so unprofessional. Needless to say I would never want to work for such people anyway.
Yes I am a SAHM but I have skills, experiences and degrees beyond that. And since the time I stayed home, caring for my little baby, I have developed more skills than I had in all these years of my professional career. And I am so glad to say that this #SAHM knows more than the gentleman recruiting. God help the company.
SAHMs are not those ignorant women who lose a part of cerebrum because they are cleaning poop and running household chores non stop.
They are those women who develop multitasking like no other job profile would teach you. They have patience. They have courage. They work even with the puffy eyes and zero sleep.
They don’t need makeup, they are needed for their abilities.
Have you seen anyone working round the clock, multi tasking, watching someone with two eyes in front and two at the back, with least amount of sleep, least amount of self care, least number of demands, least number of regrets, least dose on coffee but most focused and highest productivity? None, but SAHMs.
Like the butterflies with so many legs, SAHMs have the ability to do work of six hands with just two.
So thank you to those companies who don’t support remote work for women like me, I would never want to work for you. And rest assured there is a lot of talent that could do so much for the betterment of this world through these SAHMs that is going unappreciated. Maybe one day we will truly become modern.